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Through six ancient tales in his new book, author SHUBHA VILAS lists out 5.5 ways to make your relationships loving and lasting
Key 1: Forgiveness is the key
In the beginning of a relationship, it’s only the positive side of one another that is visible. As the relationship progresses, the negative side takes prominence causing destabilisation. When the good side is the focus, the bad side is hardly visible. But when the bad side of people you love comes to the forefront, the good side miraculously shrinks or is hardly considered relevant. That is where the role of forgiveness comes in….
Forgiveness is the first key to make a relationship last for a lifetime.
Key 2: Appreciative expressions of love
Love is a very important element of life. Expressing that love is even more crucial. Relationships begin with expressions that touch the heart. But, over time, the relationship plateaus and one tends to forget this fact.… Your vocabulary is not formed with words but with intentions. The feeling of being loveable is something that no gift can replace. People need a daily quota of loving words to gently remind them that they are loveable.
Appreciative expressions of love is the second key to make a relationship last for a lifetime.
Key 3: Trusting relationships
Trust is the foundation on which relationships thrive. Without trust they only strive.… Trust in others begins by trusting oneself first, the inner voice, second and life itself, third. There may be many reasons to lose trust in oneself, in one’s inner voice as well as in life. But there is one very good reason to keep trusting all over again, and that is the possibility of experiencing lasting love. Trust is the third key to make a relationship last for a life time.
Key 4: Good times help tide over bad times
Time is the world’s most expensive currency. When you invest time, it means that you are investing your most expensive currency in that person. Probably the best way to understand your priorities is to monitor the way you spend the currency of time…. Alignment is important for relationships to last... To align with one another, two people need to have deep, meaningful, soul-searching conversations with each other. These conversations are about revealing one’s thoughts, feelings and fears without inhibitions and with utter honesty.
Spending quality and quantity time is the fourth key to make a relationship last for a lifetime.
Key 5: The determination to stay together
Determination means doing what’s necessary even when it seems difficult. Determination allows us to act even when we don’t know how to. The mind automatically generates internal resources that are needed to overcome resistance, setbacks and selfdoubt, given enough determination and will….Those who are determined to commit themselves to a relationship for life understand that if someone is not satisfied with one person, they will never be satisfied with anyone.
The determination to stick to one relationship actually increases the overall levels of happiness and contentment in a human being.
Determination to stay in a relationship is the fifth key to make a relationship last for a lifetime.
Key 5.5: Conditions that unite
Conditions can either better the condition of a relationship or worsen it. So are conditions good or are conditions bad for relationships? Actually nothing in this world is purely good or bad. It all depends on the impact it creates. If anything causes a positive impact on a relationship, then it is good and if anything causes a negative impact on a relationship, then it is bad. Conditions that unite are conditions that are right.…
Half of this key is about how negative conditions don’t work in a relationship. The other half is about how positive conditions preserve one. A positive condition is the last halfkey to make a relationship last for a lifetime.
Perfect Love: 5.5 Ways To
A Lasting Relationship
By Shubha Vilas
Price: Rs 350